Why do people divorce? For as many reasons as there are people. And if you got involved with a person who stated right up front, ‘I’m not looking for a committed relationship,’ you weren’t paying attention. Changing him/her seldom happens.
There are those people who say, ‘we should have free marriage’ and others saying, ‘marriage is a life-time commitment’ – well, forever doesn’t last very long anymore. Used to be we had parents or grandparents that were married for fifty+ years. Whoa! Not so many anymore.
Apparently, due to more and more women earning higher salaries, they aren’t settling for any bull-s__ from a husband that isn’t what they want him to be, doing what they want him to do, and tradition be damned, ‘I’m outta here’ happens a lot more often than it ever used to.
The reasons and causes are different and complex – peculiar to the couple’s relationship, their experiences, and personal problems. There is no one or special reason, but some reasons are used often enough they become rather common. Following are the ten causes most sited for ending a marriage:
1. Lack of communication
2. Financial problems
3. Differences in religious affiliations
4. Lifestyle differences
5. Mental illness or instability
6. Criminal behaviors and/or prison terms
7. Pornography issues
8. We’ve grown apart; no room for personal growth
9. Different expectations
10. Fell out of love
As noted above, lack of communication is probably the most used reason to end the marriage. The relationship will not, can not last if either partner refuses to talk about their feelings or personal issues. Resentment creates huge chasms of discord and frustration and the couple aren’t able to resolve or dissolve the problems.
If you refuse to tell your partner what’s wrong…well, you might as well say so long – even a fool won’t try to guess what the problems are if there are too many and no one’s talking.
There was a couple that lived together for over 15 years, decided to marry and were divorced within three years – possibly too many problems existed before the marriage and were likely ignored; the couple married thinking the problems would magically disappear. And of course, they didn’t. That was over ten years ago; neither person remarried and that’s probably a good thing.
The U.S. Census bureau notes: people who live together before marriage have higher divorce rates than people who don’t and also noted: sixty-seven percent of all second marriages will end.
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Why Divorces Happen More Often Now Than They Did In The Past
