The first written reference to a person having a destined mate is from Plato in ancient Greece. His original idea theorized the perfect human being, or soul, was split apart and would spend their whole life looking for the other half. Plato’s theory may have been sound; but of course he had no practical way to prove it to be true. The Doppelganger is a mirror image of ourselves; but basically malevolent in nature. Other than this one mention the theory was lost until relatively modern times; doppelgangers have made many appearances, mostly in recent horror films.

Now many serious theorists propose that each of these alleged halves of the human soul learns all life’s lessons at their own pace, and if the two halves happen across some time during life they may have unbelievably powerful bond; because they are the same soul. It becomes more than just a simple connection, they are so alike in the intensity of the connection, as well as any emotions or issues coming to light, are super intensified; many times these are too much for people to handle. Taking this path, obviously there is only one other soul mate that you can possibly ever find or possibly never want to find.

These writings also make no mention of the sexual preference of the mates, logically if one’s soul splits in half and you are male the other half of your soul would also be male – or not? Most writers today somehow arrive at the soulmate as being a male-female relationship and don’t even consider that either could be gay, with most not even addressing the sexual issue, they are just prophetic in asexual terms. Conversely, I have never seen addressed that one of the soul parts could be male, the other female, but one of the two may be homosexual or lesbian. Such modern-day life choices don’t seem to fit into the theory of most modernists. This is especially true if the person addressing the subject is writing in a quasi-religious manner.

Utilizing the split sole theory you also run into another problem which can result in one of two things, if you feel once a soul has divided it cannot split again, then we are very limited as the number of souls left to be mates. Once they split, and never find each other, then those souls will never again find a true mate. The other side would be if it’s once a soul splits and it can split again. With this path we end up with an unlimited number of souls; but then again, what if the new souls can be a soulmate for the original half of the soul that did not split or split later. If that is the case, in today’s world, we could have thousands or even tens of thousands of matches, who at one time or another, become related to the original split soul. This is another aspect of the theory I have not seen addressed.

While I may seem to be arguing in the negative for the existence of your perfect mate, that is not the side I wish to take. I do, and always have, believed in the existence of at least one, possibly more, soulmates for every person in the world. Since I can only write from a man’s perspective, as that is what I am, I can truthfully say that I have met at least one, in my opinion perfect mate – for me anyway. It happened 10 years ago, and she was five years younger than me. At the time I owned a graphics company and she had visited my office to sell me some office equipment; which I bought without much effort on her part.

There are several other theories out there about soulmates of course, one prevalent one, includes the aspects of reincarnation. When we come back as a different reincarnate, our soul, having lived before had connections that were made in that past life. This I think is a subject for another essay.

First question I’m asked what I relate the above personal story, of course is, if I married her. I did not. Many people say we look back on past relationships we have only tunnel vision. Our overall perception of the relationship is tainted by how we left it; if it was a bad breakup the remembrances are not positive, on the other hand we may have nothing but good memories. With my perfect mate I can truthfully say they’re only good memories. I only remember twice even being angry with her; once after six or seven months when I found out she smoked; which was completely hidden from me all that time. And the other when she had her hair permed and I just didn’t like it. Both obviously, are not very meaningful reasons to be angry. Unfortunately, my relationship ended when she was killed in an auto accident. Do think about her? Almost every day; my memories are wonderful.

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Soul Mates – Is it True That Everyone Has an Ideal Mate Or Are They a Doppelganger?