The feeling you get when your partner, that special someone to you cheats can be summarized in two words… Betrayal and Hurt. It actually feels more painful if you’ve been especially faithful to this person. I am going to talk about this from the male perspective.
What is cheating?
The way I see it, cheating involves any intimate affair or activity you carry out with somebody else other than your partner. Some people even believe that if you’re giving another person the time and attention that rightfully belongs to your partner, then you’re cheating on them.
Why do people cheat?
Honestly I believe that there’s neither reason nor justification for cheating. If you’ve decided to be with someone then why have an affair with another, why betray the trust, why hurt someone you claim to love? So many questions which answers we’ll never know. Women claim they’re vulnerable, yes, so? If you feel you’re so prone to cheating then why don’t you stay single! Men are not impervious you know. The popular norm is that men cheat and can never stay faithful, so if you find a man who tries to revolve his life and entire existence around you and make you the center of his world, why don’t you try to return this goodwill?
How does it feel when you’re cheated on?
You’re infuriated, furious, betrayed and hurt. Forget the idea of men being cheaters, when a man loves his woman, it doesn’t matter how much he plays around, she remains a ruby in his eyes, she’s still very special to him. And trust me when I say this, the moment that woman cheats on him with another, be it just once, he could lose it, it’ll affect him the exact same way.
However, that case study applies only when ‘He loves his woman’. If she’s just an item to him, he’d actually still be mad, but it won’t be because he feels any of the things mentioned above but that he believes he’s the only one entitled to cheat. Weird but true.
Can I still love and trust again after I’ve been cheated on?
This depends solely on you. I recently published an article on how you can know if your broken relationship is still worth saving and I’ll quote myself from that article; “It is only typical for you to feel that you would automatically stop trusting your partner after you’ve been cheated on or have been betrayed in one way or the other. But that is not always the case. Yea, I said it. Trusting your partner is still a possibility. If you find that you don’t trust your partner any more please don’t try to force it, it’s a natural phenomenon. On the other hand, if you still feel a level of trust for your partner after your breakup then build on that. You don’t have to let your partner go. That little trust that remains means that your relationship is still worth saving.”
Therefore trust can still remain. This trust that still lingers is dependent on the love you feel in your heart. Even if you forgive and take her back you should note is that no matter how hard you try, your relationship can never be the same again. It will take a long time to let go of the hurt i.e. if it will ever pass away.
Cheating always results in sad consequences. It creates a lot of emotional tension and the trauma that it brings is not something you would want to experience but it still happens anyway. So to the innocent partner, when it happens do not rely on your heart to make decisions, no, instead talk to friends, evaluate the situation and stick to your resolve at the end.
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Is It Possible to Love and Trust Again After Being Cheated on?
