What does a cub bring to the table that an old coot can’t or won’t? Youth, stamina, libido of course and a certain amount of innocence and sweetness that we find empowering. But if a cub pounces too fast, the Cougar gets away. That being said, I think it is a good idea to get a discussion started about basic etiquette here on this website as well as when we are at events together.
The perception that a Cougar (confident woman) is a hunter in the same way that a man is a hunter may be inaccurate. If a man transfers the same definition of the role onto the woman and has an expectation that he is going to “get some” right off the bat, he is likely to be disappointed.
Guys, here is the bottom line: We are still ladies. We have a lifetime of experience to share and meeting you guys is a way for us to perhaps rekindle certain things in ourselves that went missing while we were with the coots. Now, some confident women will want to hook up; as in friends with benefits. Some may want to just start as friends while we feel our way around this new style of mating and find our comfort zone with it. Some will want to meet and mingle and dance and chat with several cubs before we make our selection. Some of us are just now entertaining the thoughts of exploring with a younger man.
Regardless of our hunting style or intentions, it is important for you to be respectful, good listeners, empathic, and let us find our own groove with you. That being said, please don’t pepper us with solicitous emails about having a sexual encounter or come onto us fast and furiously in public. The coots do this. And the coots are what we are sick and tired of. Ask us how we would like to be approached. Be a gentleman. Get to know who we are as individuals. Ask us how our day went. Take an active interest in our lives and our feelings. Touch our hearts. Let us guide you into the realm of our Den, in the way that each of us as individual confident women defines it.
Ladies, our experiences in life have given us wisdom, maturity and perspective; the very things cubs find so attractive about us. On the other hand, as confident women we need to set the boundaries for the cubs’ behavior toward us. In essence, we teach them how to treat us. And the most powerful word we have to set a boundary is “No.” Some younger men are very mature and some need our guidance to develop appropriate social skills and to develop into the men we want them to be. Think about what it is you are looking for and then see which cub you can cultivate it in.
I added specific groups to this site so that hopefully you can all connect with what you are looking for. Cougars and cubs who want to be friends with benefits will find their matches under that group. If you are so inclined toward quickly hooking up, join that group. If you don’t find the group that fits what you are looking for, click on the GROUPS tab and add your own. Aside from that, please be respectful in your hunting style. Your efforts will be rewarded.
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Basic Cub Etiquette Toward Cougars – Premature Pouncing
